It was the same thing all over again at the gym. All my friends told me that it was a great place to get started, and I know it is, but it just didn't feel right. The clothes felt funny, and when I got inside, it felt like everyone was staring at me. I spent about five minutes on the treadmill, but when it felt like I was out of breath I got off and went home.
Overall, even though I tried something new, I didn't make any progress. Some people have all the luck.
If any of us heard a friend or relative talking this way, we would challenge these assumptions. Clearly, that sort of half-assed attitude is no way to make progress. But how often is this an 'appropriate' way for people to pursue pick-up?
This is also no endorsement of the ritualized (and monetized) systems out there today that force acolytes to learn routines and patterns just to number close. But the next time you see a friend give a girl a second glance, make sure they go over and take the shot. If they miss, help them with the breakdown, understand where it went wrong. If they hit, do the same. If you see chronic patterns that guarantee failure, help them do the work that needs to be done so they can be successful.
No matter how good you are, your pick-up muscles can always use a workout.
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